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Disclaimer:  This document has been modified from it’s original.  The creator is unkown and similar checklists appear on many BDSM sites.  This checklist has been modified for those wishing to distinguish between fantasy and real life scenes.  It also provides a place for the person filling it out to clarify whether or not they’ve experienced a particular activity as either a sub or dom.  While many specific items are for submissives, they can just as easily be answered by the dominant partner.

 

Submissive / Dominant / Switch Activity Checklist – June 2005

 

Willingness on a scale of 0-5


0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it. (In fact, may loath it.  It would turn you off and you would want this to be a hard limit.) 

 

If you indicate a 1, this means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it was asked of you.   You would be willing to do it to please your partner if it they really wanted it. (Sometimes called a "soft limit").

 

If you indicate a 2, this means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.  

 

If you indicate a 3, this means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular or occasional basis.  

 

If you indicate a 4, this means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis. 

 

If you indicate a 5, this means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

 

0 means no, this is a hard limit.

5 means go for it.  Yes, please, I want some more.

Y is yes, you’ve experienced it

N is no, you haven’t

 

Category

Desire for this in fantasy play

Desire for this in real life play

Experienced this activity as a sub

 

( Y or N)

Did this activity as a dom to a sub

( Y or N)

Abrasion

 

 

 

 

Age play

 

 

 

 

Anal sex

 

 

 

 

Anal plugs (small)

 

 

 

 

Anal plugs (large)

 

 

 

 

Anal plug 

(public, under clothes)

 

 

 

 

Animal roles

 

 

 

 

Arm & leg sleeves (arm binders)

 

 

 

 

Asphyxiation

 

 

 

 

Auctioned for charity

 

 

 

 

Auctioned for real

 

 

 

 

Bathroom use control

 

 

 

 

Bestiality 

 

 

 

 

Beating (soft)

 

 

 

 

Beating (Medium)

 

 

 

 

Beating (hard)

 

 

 

 

Blindfolds

 

 

 

 

Being serviced (sexual)

 

 

 

 

Being bitten

 

 

 

 

Breast/chest bondage

 

 

 

 

Breath control

 

 

 

 

Boot worship

 

 

 

 

Bondage (light)

 

 

 

 

Bondage (heavy)

 

 

 

 

Bondage (multi-day)

 

 

 

 

Bondage

(public, under clothing)

 

 

 

 

Breast whipping

 

 

 

 

Breast spanking

 

 

 

 

Brown showers (scat)

 

 

 

 

Cages (locked inside of)

 

 

 

 

Caning

 

 

 

 

Catheterization

 

 

 

 

CD Cum Depravation hours

 

 

 

 

CD Cum Depravation days

 

 

 

 

Cells/Closets (locked inside of)

 

 

 

 

Chastity belts

 

 

 

 

Boot worship

 

 

 

 

Choking

 

 

 

 

Clothespins

 

 

 

 

Cock worship

 

 

 

 

Collars (worn in private)

 

 

 

 

Collars (worn in public)

 

 

 

 

Competitions (with other Subs)

 

 

 

 

Corsets (wearing)

 

 

 

 

Costumes (wearing)

 

 

 

 

Cuffs (leather)

 

 

 

 

Cuffs (metal)

 

 

 

 

Cutting

 

 

 

 

Dilation

 

 

 

 

Double penetration

 

 

 

 

Electricity

 

 

 

 

Enemas

 

 

 

 

Enforced chastity

 

 

 

 

Examinations (as pet)

 

 

 

 

Examinations (like doctor)

 

 

 

 

Exercise (forced/required)

 

 

 

 

Exhibitionism (friends)

 

 

 

 

Exhibitionism (strangers)

 

 

 

 

Eye contact restrictions

 

 

 

 

Face slapping

 

 

 

 

Fantasy abandonment

 

 

 

 

Fantasy rape

 

 

 

 

Fantasy gang-rape

 

 

 

 

Fisting (anal)

 

 

 

 

Fisting (vaginal)

 

 

 

 

Following orders

 

 

 

 

Foot worship

 

 

 

 

Forced dressing

 

 

 

 

Forced homosexuality

 

 

 

 

Forced masturbation

 

 

 

 

Forced nudity (private)

 

 

 

 

Forced nudity (around others)

 

 

 

 

Forced servitude

 

 

 

 

Full head hoods

 

 

 

 

Gags (cloth)

 

 

 

 

Gags (rubber)

 

 

 

 

Gags (tape)

 

 

 

 

Gates of Hell (male)

 

 

 

 

Genital sex

 

 

 

 

Given away to another Dom (temp)supervised / nearby

 

 

 

 

Given away to another Dom (perm)

 

 

 

 

Golden showers

 

 

 

 

Hairbrush spankings

 

 

 

 

Hair pulling

 

 

 

 

Hand jobs (giving)

 

 

 

 

Hand jobs (receiving)

 

 

 

 

Harems (serving w/other subs)

 

 

 

 

Harnessing (leather)

 

 

 

 

Harnessing (rope)

 

 

 

 

Having food chosen for you

 

 

 

 

Having clothing chosen for you

 

 

 

 

Head (giving fellatio)

 

 

 

 

Head (receiving fellatio)

 

 

 

 

High heel worship

 

 

 

 

Homage with tongue (non-sexual)

 

 

 

 

Hot oils (on genitals)

 

 

 

 

Hot waxing

 

 

 

 

Housework (doing)

 

 

 

 

Human puppy dog

 

 

 

 

Humiliation (private)

 

 

 

 

Humiliation (public)

 

 

 

 

Hypnotism

 

 

 

 

Ice cubes

 

 

 

 

Including others

 

 

 

 

Infantilism

 

 

 

 

Initiation rites

 

 

 

 

Injections

 

 

 

 

Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage

 

 

 

 

Interrogations

 

 

 

 

Kidnapping

 

 

 

 

Kneeling

 

 

 

 

Leather clothing

 

 

 

 

Licking (non-sexual)

 

 

 

 

Manacles & Irons

 

 

 

 

Manicures (giving)

 

 

 

 

Massage (giving)

 

 

 

 

Massage (receiving)

 

 

 

 

Medical scenes

 

 

 

 

Modeling for erotic photos

 

 

 

 

Mouth bits

 

 

 

 

Mummification

 

 

 

 

Nipple clamps

 

 

 

 

Nipple weights

 

 

 

 

Oral/anal play (rimming)

 

 

 

 

Over-the-knee spanking

 

 

 

 

Orgasm denial

 

 

 

 

Orgasm control

 

 

 

 

Outdoor scenes

 

 

 

 

Outdoor sex

 

 

 

 

Phone sex (serving Dom)

 

 

 

 

Phone sex (serving Dom's friends)

 

 

 

 

Piercing (temporary, play-pierce) 

 

 

 

 

Piercing (permanent)

 

 

 

 

Prison scenes

 

 

 

 

Pony slave

 

 

 

 

Public exposure

 

 

 

 

Puppy play

 

 

 

 

Kitty play

 

 

 

 

Pussy/cock whipping

 

 

 

 

Pussy worship

 

 

 

 

Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.)

 

 

 

 

Rituals

 

 

 

 

Religious scenes

 

 

 

 

Restrictive rules on behavior

 

 

 

 

Rubber/latex clothing

 

 

 

 

Rope body harness

 

 

 

 

Saran wrapping

 

 

 

 

Scratching - getting

 

 

 

 

Scratching - giving

 

 

 

 

Sensory deprivation

 

 

 

 

Serving

 

 

 

 

Serving as art

 

 

 

 

Serving as ashtray

 

 

 

 

Serving as furniture

 

 

 

 

Serving as a maid

 

 

 

 

Serving as toilet

 

 

 

 

Serving as waitress/waiter

 

 

 

 

Serving orally (sexual)

 

 

 

 

Serving other doms (supervised)

 

 

 

 

Serving other doms (unsupervised)

 

 

 

 

Sexual deprivation (short term)

 

 

 

 

Sexual deprivation (long term)

 

 

 

 

Shaving (body hair)

 

 

 

 

Shaving (head hair)

 

 

 

 

Sleep deprivation

 

 

 

 

Sleep sacks

 

 

 

 

Slutty clothing (private)

 

 

 

 

Slutty clothing (public)

 

 

 

 

Spanking

 

 

 

 

Spandex clothing

 

 

 

 

Speech restrictions (when, what)

 

 

 

 

Speculums (Anal)

 

 

 

 

Speculums (vaginal)

 

 

 

 

Spreader bars

 

 

 

 

Standing in corner

 

 

 

 

Stocks

 

 

 

 

Straight jackets

 

 

 

 

Strap-on-dildos (sucking on)

 

 

 

 

Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by)

 

 

 

 

Strap-on-dildos (wearing)

 

 

 

 

Strapping (full body beating)

 

 

 

 

Suspension (upright)

 

 

 

 

Suspension (inverted)

 

 

 

 

Suspension (horizontal)

 

 

 

 

Supplying new partners for Dom

 

 

 

 

Swallowing semen

 

 

 

 

Swallowing urine

 

 

 

 

Swapping (with one other couple)

 

 

 

 

Swinging (multiple couples)

 

 

 

 

Tattooing

 

 

 

 

Teasing

 

 

 

 

Tickling

 

 

 

 

Triple penetration

 

 

 

 

Uniforms

 

 

 

 

Vaginal dildo

 

 

 

 

Verbal humiliation

 

 

 

 

Vibrator on genitals

 

 

 

 

Voyeurism (watching others)

 

 

 

 

Voyeurism (your Dom w/others)

 

 

 

 

Video (watching others)

 

 

 

 

Video (recordings of you)

 

 

 

 

Water torture

 

 

 

 

Wearing symbolic jewelry

 

 

 

 

Whipping

 

 

 

 

Wooden paddles

 

 

 

 

Wrestling