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Disclaimer:  This document has been modified from it’s original.  The creator is unkown and similar checklists appear on many BDSM sites.  This checklist has been modified for those wishing to distinguish between fantasy and real life scenes.  It also provides a place for the person filling it out to clarify whether or not they’ve experienced a particular activity as either a sub or dom.  While many specific items are for submissives, they can just as easily be answered by the dominant partner.


Submissive / Dominant / Switch Activity Checklist – June 2005


Willingness on a scale of 0-5

0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it. (In fact, may loath it.  It would turn you off and you would want this to be a hard limit.) 


If you indicate a 1, this means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it was asked of you.   You would be willing to do it to please your partner if it they really wanted it. (Sometimes called a "soft limit").


If you indicate a 2, this means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.  


If you indicate a 3, this means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular or occasional basis.  


If you indicate a 4, this means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis. 


If you indicate a 5, this means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.


0 means no, this is a hard limit.

5 means go for it.  Yes, please, I want some more.

Y is yes, you’ve experienced it

N is no, you haven’t



Desire for this in fantasy play

Desire for this in real life play

Experienced this activity as a sub


( Y or N)

Did this activity as a dom to a sub

( Y or N)






Age play





Anal sex





Anal plugs (small)





Anal plugs (large)





Anal plug 

(public, under clothes)





Animal roles





Arm & leg sleeves (arm binders)










Auctioned for charity





Auctioned for real





Bathroom use control










Beating (soft)





Beating (Medium)





Beating (hard)










Being serviced (sexual)





Being bitten





Breast/chest bondage





Breath control





Boot worship





Bondage (light)





Bondage (heavy)





Bondage (multi-day)






(public, under clothing)





Breast whipping





Breast spanking





Brown showers (scat)





Cages (locked inside of)















CD Cum Depravation hours





CD Cum Depravation days





Cells/Closets (locked inside of)





Chastity belts





Boot worship















Cock worship





Collars (worn in private)





Collars (worn in public)





Competitions (with other Subs)





Corsets (wearing)





Costumes (wearing)





Cuffs (leather)





Cuffs (metal)















Double penetration















Enforced chastity





Examinations (as pet)





Examinations (like doctor)





Exercise (forced/required)





Exhibitionism (friends)





Exhibitionism (strangers)





Eye contact restrictions





Face slapping





Fantasy abandonment





Fantasy rape





Fantasy gang-rape





Fisting (anal)





Fisting (vaginal)





Following orders





Foot worship





Forced dressing





Forced homosexuality





Forced masturbation





Forced nudity (private)





Forced nudity (around others)





Forced servitude





Full head hoods





Gags (cloth)





Gags (rubber)





Gags (tape)





Gates of Hell (male)





Genital sex





Given away to another Dom (temp)supervised / nearby





Given away to another Dom (perm)





Golden showers





Hairbrush spankings





Hair pulling





Hand jobs (giving)





Hand jobs (receiving)





Harems (serving w/other subs)





Harnessing (leather)





Harnessing (rope)





Having food chosen for you





Having clothing chosen for you





Head (giving fellatio)





Head (receiving fellatio)





High heel worship





Homage with tongue (non-sexual)





Hot oils (on genitals)





Hot waxing





Housework (doing)





Human puppy dog





Humiliation (private)





Humiliation (public)










Ice cubes





Including others










Initiation rites










Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage




















Leather clothing





Licking (non-sexual)





Manacles & Irons





Manicures (giving)





Massage (giving)





Massage (receiving)





Medical scenes





Modeling for erotic photos





Mouth bits










Nipple clamps





Nipple weights





Oral/anal play (rimming)





Over-the-knee spanking





Orgasm denial





Orgasm control





Outdoor scenes





Outdoor sex





Phone sex (serving Dom)





Phone sex (serving Dom's friends)





Piercing (temporary, play-pierce) 





Piercing (permanent)





Prison scenes





Pony slave





Public exposure





Puppy play





Kitty play





Pussy/cock whipping





Pussy worship





Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.)










Religious scenes





Restrictive rules on behavior





Rubber/latex clothing





Rope body harness





Saran wrapping





Scratching - getting





Scratching - giving





Sensory deprivation










Serving as art





Serving as ashtray





Serving as furniture





Serving as a maid





Serving as toilet





Serving as waitress/waiter





Serving orally (sexual)





Serving other doms (supervised)





Serving other doms (unsupervised)





Sexual deprivation (short term)





Sexual deprivation (long term)





Shaving (body hair)





Shaving (head hair)





Sleep deprivation





Sleep sacks





Slutty clothing (private)





Slutty clothing (public)










Spandex clothing





Speech restrictions (when, what)





Speculums (Anal)





Speculums (vaginal)





Spreader bars





Standing in corner










Straight jackets





Strap-on-dildos (sucking on)





Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by)





Strap-on-dildos (wearing)





Strapping (full body beating)





Suspension (upright)





Suspension (inverted)





Suspension (horizontal)





Supplying new partners for Dom





Swallowing semen





Swallowing urine





Swapping (with one other couple)





Swinging (multiple couples)




















Triple penetration










Vaginal dildo





Verbal humiliation





Vibrator on genitals





Voyeurism (watching others)





Voyeurism (your Dom w/others)





Video (watching others)





Video (recordings of you)





Water torture





Wearing symbolic jewelry










Wooden paddles